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Have you ever found yourself stuck on a particular thought that just won’t go away?  It could be a positive thought, a negative thought, or even a neutral thought…but it stays there, much like a song stuck in your head.  Negative thoughts, especially, seem to stick around in a really annoying way.  If a person isn’t adept at just “letting it go” (which is harder than it sounds), these thoughts become even more frustrating.  They begin as a random thought that brushes against the mind…and then many times quickly take over the entire thought process.  For awhile we wallow in these thoughts.  We think “well, if I marinate in it for awhile, it’ll just go away.”  Wrong.  At this point, they become annoyingly present at all times.  The wallowing actually made it worse.  So what is it that we do to get rid of these thoughts?  We have to consciously decide to push them away–negative thoughts have a way of snowballing into something larger than we ever thought possible, and there is no room for that in our lives.

Louise L. Hay says, “It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed.”  There is so much truth in that statement, however unattainable it may seem at the beginning.  Different things work for different people.  Meditation has always worked for me, where it doesn’t work for others.  Affirmations work for other people and don’t seem to work as well for me.  Some people run, bike, swim, or dance (all forms of moving meditation); some people write, paint, play an instrument, or sculpt (all forms of creative meditation).  Whatever you do that works for you, keep doing that.

Recently I have gotten back into the habit of daily meditation along with a physical practice (either swimming or yoga).  It has come to my attention that instead of waiting for something to happen and then going back to meditation, I should be meditating and practicing all the time in order to buffer those situations in the first place.  I guess it’s similar to taking care of your car.  If you have the oil changed regularly, put gas in it, and keep everything tuned up, you won’t be going into the shop every month because the engine has fallen out and the tires keep exploding.  Of course, there are always the fluke accidents…but they shouldn’t be a regular thing.

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  1. Some of the Louise Hays premises, and those little cards, I find more than glib, and often, in the context of workshop or individual use they are barely a temporary band-aid on something which requires at least minor surgery….

    I am more with Jung on diminishing those old negative programmings and tape loops, as I call them. They can be diminished, but will never fully go away. That boulder of old programming can be reduced in size.

    Each time an issue comes up, you have to be prepared to recognize it, realize where it came from (conditioning, external or self) and then be ready to “talk to yourself,” a somewhat pat prepared speech you can readily repeat, because the issue is old and deeply embedded. However brief, they will not be what is or fits on a tidy Louise Hay Course in Miracles Flash Card – LOL.

    That pat speech should more than ‘just say no’ to that old self-perception or self-doubt. It should have something more positive to be said until that becomes the ‘new response.’ Later, when the obstacle is diminished to the size of a mere pebble, and it comes up, you can say to yourself, Oh, you! You little shit. I know __________ (better) now! and be merrily along your way.

    It is unlikely you can ever fully excise that pebble, but it is no longer the huge obstacle it once was, and there is now something better in place beside it whenever the negative is triggered.

    Some of what you are talking about is stilling ‘thinking.’ (I think the term “Mental Chatter.” may have originated in A.A.) For some westerners it is next to impossible to ‘think of nothing,” (I am one of those) which is the very premise of Transcendental Meditation. We are ill-equipped for it. I often think the attempts to still the mind become manifest in truckloads of substance abuse – name your substance of preference, alcohol, marijuana, or something harder and class ‘a’ narcotic.

    That zone when a musician is practicing, or any one is deeply involved or engaged with a profession, hobby or craft, is another place where many of the ‘chatters’ have been temporarily abandonded. Not only stilling, but simultaneously productive, if nothing else as a very healthy pass-time.

    I wish, like you, all the mental chatter could be forever silent. I think it is good sometimes to ‘think of nothing, or not think at all… It is then of course when we are open to fresh and unbiased perceptions and come up with truly fresh ideas. Physical excercise and the released endorphins are one route. As a piano teacher of mine told me, when I was advanced enough to know what it meant. “Whatever works.” 🙂 Love that.

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